USRAH: Jurnal Hukum Keluarga Islam
Vol. 6 No. 4 (2025): Oktober

SINTESIS SOLUSI ISLAM TERHADAP POLA KOMUNIKASI DESTRUKTIF ‘THE FOUR HORSEMEN’ DALAM PERNIKAHAN: KAJIAN TEORETIS DAN PRAKTIS

Muhammad Fariq Firdaus (Unknown)
Akhmad Husaini (Unknown)



Article Info

Publish Date
01 Oct 2025

Abstract

Destructive communication in marriage is one of the main causes of damaged relationships between spouses. John Gottman identified four negative communication patterns known as The Four Horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, which have been proven to predict divorce. This study aims to analyze and synthesize the solutions offered by Gottman through The Antidotes with the principles of communication in Islam. Using a qualitative descriptive approach and a library research method, this study analyzes primary sources from Gottman's theory and widely recognized Islamic references. The findings show that Islamic solutions not only align with Gottman's psychological approach but also reinforce it with spiritual values such as self-reflection (muhasabah), emotional regulation, and mutual consultation (shura). This synthesis offers a more holistic approach to building healthy marital communication that is also spiritually meaningful. The study is expected to enrich the literature on marital communication by integrating modern psychology with Islamic values.

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Journal Info

Abbrev

USRAH

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Subject

Religion Law, Crime, Criminology & Criminal Justice

Description

USRAH: Jurnal Hukum Keluarga Islam published by Al-Ahwal Research Centre of Departement of Islamic Family Law, STAI Muhammadiyah Probolinggo since 2019. The subject covers textual and fieldwork studies with various perspectives of Islamic Family Law, Islam and gender discourse, and legal drafting of ...