Neurodevelopmental disorders such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and autism spectrum disorder (ASD) share overlapping clinical symptoms, complicating diagnosis and motivating objective, data-driven approaches using neuroimaging and machine learning. Graph neural networks (GNNs) have shown strong performance in this domain, yet many existing studies rely on single-modality data, transductive learning, and feature selection procedures that may introduce information leakage and inflate reported accuracy. This study proposes a multimodal graph learning framework that integrates resting-state fMRI (rs-fMRI), structural MRI (sMRI), and demographic data for classifying ADHD, ASD, and healthy controls (HC). The framework integrates temporal stability-based functional connectivity, hybrid feature selection, and adaptive multi-graph learning to exploit complementary information across these modalities. Using the ADHD-200 and ABIDE datasets, the framework is evaluated under three protocols that progressively tighten control over information leakage: transductive learning with global feature selection, inductive learning with global feature selection, and inductive learning with fold-wise feature selection. Results show that classification performance is highest under the transductive, globally-selected setting (85.5% accuracy for HC vs ADHD vs ASD, 92.5% for HC vs ASD, and 90.4% for HC vs ADHD), but decreases under the strictest leakage-aware protocol (70.9%, 81.7%, and 79.3%, respectively). This performance gap indicates that conventional evaluation protocols can substantially overestimate real-world generalization. Importantly, the proposed framework still achieves reasonable accuracy under the strictest setting, suggesting genuine discriminative capability beyond evaluation artifacts. These findings emphasize that leakage-aware evaluation, although yielding lower numbers, provides a more realistic and trustworthy estimate of model performance, highlighting its importance for developing reliable neuroimaging-based GNN models