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The Meaning of “Ideal Dating” in Gender Role Construction: A Phenomenological Study of Student Experiences in Surabaya Wahzu Hairina Putri, Diandra; Ridwan, Ahmad; Handini Listyani, Refti
Jurnal Partisipatoris Vol. 8 No. 1.5 (2026): Special Issue: Sociology of Feminism
Publisher : University of Muhammadiyah Malang

Show Abstract | Download Original | Original Source | Check in Google Scholar | DOI: 10.22219/jp.v8i1.5.43294

Abstract

This study explores the meaning of “ideal dating” and gender role constructions in the experiences of students in Surabaya. Dating as a social phenomenon among students is a complex space where various values, norms, and societal expectations meet and negotiate. Using a qualitative approach with descriptive phenomenology, this study involved five students in Surabaya through purposive sampling and snowball sampling. Data were collected through semi-structured in-depth interviews and analyzed using qualitative descriptive methods. The results show that “ideal dating” for Surabaya students is a dynamic social construct that emphasizes open communication, mutual emotional support, mutual understanding, and a commitment to growing together. Four main pillars were identified: communication and openness, mutual understanding and ego management, support as a manifestation of love, and role balance. Masculinity is still associated with financial responsibility and decision-making, while femininity is linked to emotional sensitivity and a supportive role. However, there is a strong tendency toward egalitarian relationship patterns, reflected in respondents' consistent rejection of the view that “men's love must be greater.” Social pressures such as academic demands, organizational commitments, and the influence of social media are negotiated through intense communication, ego management skills, and emotional adaptation. The study concludes that the meaning of ideal dating is shaped by the interaction between traditional values, modern demands, and evolving subjective experiences. This suggests that ideal dating is not fixed, but continuously negotiated by students within their social and personal contexts
Co-Authors Abdul Qodir Jaelani Afandi, Muhammad Arif AGUSTINA KOESMARIADI, FRANSISKA Ahmad Ridwan Ahmad Ridwan Amarul Ilham Rizky ANDALLA, TIGOR Atriska, Fresky Edo Azzahra, Almira Aulia BETHARI THURSVIERA, KLEANTHA Bustami, Mohammad Reevany Ciddan, Harrel Dama Putri, Syahqi Nadiva Damayanti, Febriana Firstra DEVI ORLITA SARI, INTAN DIYAH UTAMI DWI RAHAYU, AMELIA Emy Susanti Emy Susanti Emylia, Najwa Erfina Dwi Rosidah Fadhilah Kusuma Wardani Fatimah, Nurma Sri Mudhiana Firdaus, Silvia Syifanaya Fransiscus Xaverius Sri Sadewo FX Sri Sadewo FX Sri Sadewo FX. Sri Sadewo Hadiwana, Venencia Elvara Putri Hanifah, Nabilah Rahmadieni Ika Kharisma Ika Kharisma Istighfari, Ana Umar JAMEELA, MERYAM Jasmiarto, Dicky Khaerunnisa, Handini Putri Khoirum, Isa Khuzaimah, Khuzaimah LUSITANINGTYAS, MULAT Marizha Syalasatul Aini MARTINUS LEGOWO MAULINA, FERNANDA Melpin Simaremare Moch. Egar Makmur Tedjo Moh Syamsi Dhuha Moh. Mudzakkir MOH. MUDZAKKIR Mohammad Reevany Bustami Natasya, Yurike PAMBUDI HANDOYO Pratiwi, Yunita PUDJI ASTUTI Putra Santoso, Mazia Duta Sadelfan Putri, Syafira Wyldania Aisya QOMARIA, CHUSNUL R. Sapto Hendri Boedi Soesatyo Rachmah Ida Ramadhani, Nova Azzahra Ramadhani, Nur Shabrina Atsarina Rif’a Izza Sailurroqma ROHMAWATI, RATIH Sadewo, Fransiscus Xaverius Sri Salim, Hisyamuddin Sari, Devi Melati Setyowati, Niken Ayu SUGENG HARIANTO Suhari, Zuhanidz Larasati Susmita Suharjo THAMESVITA, NURNADIA WAHYU KUSWANTI, HENI WAHYU P, ALDIAN Wahzu Hairina Putri, Diandra ZDURHOTHUL FHAHIRIYAH, NABBILLAH ZULFIANA DEWI, ANISTA